“HOW CAN COUPLES INTRODUCE ADULT TOYS INTO THEIR RELATIONSHIP?”
Presented by Lady Layla
When a couple is in a loving relationship at least one of them is completely happy with the Status Quo. Often both are. They have each other and that is all that matters to them. They often believe that the sex is good and could not possibly improved on. The point is that even if the sex is good it can always be improved on and that improvement will draw them closer together.
A surprising number of women own a sex toy and it follows therefore that a large number of women appreciate the benefits that they bring. So why don’t they suggest their use during sex between them? One possible reason would be that their partner might feel that there was a suggestion that they were not quite up to the job. The truth is that men often realise that they generally struggle to get their partners to have an orgasm during sex and would be grateful for some help. It is important for them to realise that a sex toy is not in competition with them. It is a tool to be used by them.
Couples can sometimes think that there is a difference between “Making Love” to that special person and enjoying “Great Sex”. They are not mutually exclusive. Making Love to a loved one is the time when sex should be the best it can be. It won’t be fantastic every time of course but couples should give it every chance.
So, whatever the reason, many couples find it hard to approach the subject of adding sex toys to their most intimate moments. As a hint, a partner could give a sex toy as a birthday present without commenting at all. They could approach the subject gradually in a tender moment. A man could tell his partner that he would love to use a sex toy on her or that he would be excited to see her masturbating. A woman could bring up the subject in a similar fashion.
Work out the best way that suits you but don’t just whip out a large dildo with a scream of delight.
Assuming that the subject of using sex toys has been accepted by both partners it should be “easy as you go” at first. A smallish vibrator set to offer low vibrations would be the ideal starter with the intensity of the vibrations being gradually increased. There are lots of different sex toys to try but in general stick to the basics and certainly start with them.
However, before this stage is reached the subject of sex toys and their introduction is a hurdle that has to be overcome. No matter how the subject is introduced some people will never agree to incorporating sex toys into a relationship. There is no point pushing the matter as sex is always consensual. Unless both partners are happy with a situation that situation should be avoided. Communication is vital.
Once sex toys have been introduced into a couples sex life the effect of any toy and the intensity of its use are vital considerations.
Three little words work wonders – MORE, LESS and STEADY.
CONCLUSIONS –
1 – No matter how difficult you find it the subject of Sex Toys must be broached.
2 – Accept the answer without reservation. A NO is a NO.
3 – Assuming it is Yes then start slowly and in a non-threatening manner.
Further Reading –
https://www.vogue.com/article/sexpert-answers-top-sex-toy-questions
https://www.instyle.com/lifestyle/sex-toys-for-beginners-couples
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