MONOGAMY AND THE OPTIONS
Presented by Lady Layla
Monogamy is when a couple restricts themselves to sex only with their partner and never strays outside of the relationship. This is the way that many people conduct their sex life. This course has basically been chosen for the benefit of children who will have a stable background with two parents to take care of them. It has become fairly normal for people to either get married or, at least, live in that way.
Although it is accepted as normal it is not actually natural. A persons sex life would be totally different if they did not consciously decide to be monogamous. Human beings are a species of animals and have natural instincts. It would therefore be natural for a male to have sex with as many partners as possible to produce lots of offspring. That is why a bull in a field of cows will try to impregnate every cow in that field. It would be natural for a woman to conceive with the very best sperm available. It is why a bitch on heat attracts as many dogs as possible to have sexual intercourse with it. This is like a woman being gang banged and the most superior sperm being the ones that achieve fertilisation of the egg. These actions are probably the natural way for our species.
But yet people get jealous if a partner strays even though it is the natural thing to do. People say that deep down they feel betrayed but the reasons may be different to that. Men could feel undermined and worry that their performance is poor. Women could simply be afraid that they could be abandoned.
Monogamy is a chosen way of life rather than a natural one. The point is that it has been chosen. So there is a difference between what is natural and what is normal.
The natural and instinctive way for human beings is probably to indulge in a sex life where they have sex with anybody and everybody. Straying outside of any marriage can be the end of that marriage resulting in devastation for both the couple and their children. For the families sake, however, the chosen way should be monogamy unless an agreement can be reached between the two partners to circumvent the situation.
A couples sex life can be enhanced by the use of sex toys and role-playing etc and this could remove the inclination to stray. However, this may not be enough for some people. In extreme situations, Swinging, Wife swapping, Threesomes and Cuckolding are all acceptable as long as they do not affect the stability of a couples relationship.
SWINGING
Attending a swingers party is merely a new name for going to a good old fashioned orgy. Most people there are couples but it is a good idea to have a selection of single men as well as men can run dry well before the women are ready to call it a day. Basically the idea is that all participants have sex with anybody and everybody. If both partners are happy to swing this can be an ideal solution as there is no comeback at all.
A tip for the women is that they should have sex with the older men first and finally move on to the younger men. This is because older men may only be able to perform a few times and so it is best to get in early. Younger men can cum too quickly early on in the proceedings yet recover quickly. As the party progresses they can last longer and longer until eventually they are the ideal sex partner.
The result for any man in a relationship is that he can enjoy sex with women other than his partner until he is no longer able to perform. The result for any woman in a relationship is that she will get as much sex as she wants resulting in orgasm after orgasm.
Another advantage is the diversity of the people attending. Men can not only partner with mature and experienced women but also teenagers with their enthusiasm and their tight wet vaginas. Women can be satisfied by older men who know what they are doing but also have hard young erections servicing them again and again and again.
Finally to repeat that as long as both partners are totally happy with the situation then this is a surefire way to satisfy their urges.
WIFE SWAPPING
Wife swapping can be fun with both partners having sex with someone other than their partner, As they say – A change is as good as a rest.
It is often a better idea for both couples to be within eyesight of each other rather than apart. Having a partner within eyesight as both are enjoying sex strengthens the relationship.
It is a mistake to restrict the swaps to one other couple. It is a really bad idea. Wife swapping should be done with a lot of other couples possibly on a once only basis. There is nothing wrong with swapping partners for a night as it can add to any relationship if done in the right way. However, continually swapping with just one couple can be a disaster. After years of sex with the same person it is more exciting to have sex with someone else. If the swap is with the same couple feelings can develop. Instead of improving a relationship it could have a disastrous effect. It can result in dissatisfaction with a partner and a preference for the other persons partner. This can even result in divorce. Couples can wife swap by all means but they should put some variety in there by always swapping with totally different couples.
It is vital that any couple think carefully before embarking on this course of action with them being sure that it will enhance their feelings for each other.
THREESOMES
Sharing your partner is becoming more and more popular. Many couples find that an extra person in their sex lives adds extra interest and excitement.
A couple can add an extra man or an extra woman to the mix when having sex. Adding a man is popular if it is simply that both men are going to have sex with the woman. The intention is that they will both have intercourse with her several times. A woman can get great pleasure from this. However if both of the men are expected to interact as well it is often found that many men are far from keen. Some men will agree if their wives are insistent.
Adding an extra woman is another option. The extra woman would need to be bisexual and the female partner would need to be willing to indulge in some lesbian activity. With another woman there would be a lot of lesbian sex between the two women and then the man would have sex with both of them.
The couple would need to decide if they wanted a man or a woman to join them. They could always alternate between the two if their sexual preferences allow for this.
Instead of inviting the same person each time they could invite different people instead. This would prevent any kind of permanent attraction from developing.
Whatever is decided it is a good idea to have a lot of foreplay and the use of sex toys.
It all depends on the type of arrangement that the couple prefers.
Exactly how things pan out depends on the preferences of them both. Of course a lesbian couple could add an extra woman into the mix as could a gay couple add an extra man.
Adding an extra participant can improve a couples sex life but it’s not for everybody. For some couples it could be the best thing that they have ever done. It is important that both think this out carefully though as it could wreck their marriage.
They should only move forward if they are both convinced that the arrangement decided upon is right for both of them.
CUCKOLDING
Cuckolding originally meant that a man was forced to watch his partner having sex with other men. However, a lot of men seem to enjoy watching their partners enjoying the attention of others. Therefore the category has expanded to include the voluntary offering of partners. As time has gone on it has become more common for the female partner to have sex with a group of men as their partner watches. As one man said – “I find it so sexually exciting, my wife achieves orgasm and several men get to have sex with her”. It’s a “Win – Win”
PEACE OF MIND
If a couple decide to spread their wings (Or in her case her legs) it is vital that both of them are 100% happy with the idea and the outcome. Frank discussion is vital and any reservations should be a warning sign that they may be going down the wrong path. Inviting others to participate in a couples sex life can be a blessing or a disaster.
BE SURE.